Sunday Speaker – February 24, 2019
Sig Taylor
“Relational Mindfulness: the Path to Open-Hearted Relationships”

Is your relationship dead? Are you living like room-mates? Are you avoiding sensitive issues? Do you “walk on eggshells?” Would you like to be more authentic and loving?

After decades of experience Sig has come to the conclusion that the number one problem with intimate relationships is emotional reactivity – the inability of couples to tell the truth to each other. It’s the primary reason couples counselling fails. There’s a good reason couples aren’t honest with each other. It’s not that they don’t want to, it’s that it’s dangerous. As children we survive by adapting to our unique “family system.” Some families have no boundaries and all kinds of conflict while others are stoic and walled-off, never talking about feelings and vulnerability. Our family is where learn about relationships. Children learn what they live.

Do you ever wonder why you and/or your partner “lose it” sometimes? You can be having a good day and your partner says or does something that triggers you and all of a sudden you find yourself in an argument. Your good day turns bad and worse yet, instead of looking inside ourselves, we blame our partner. When we trigger, a younger adaptive part of us gets activated and we no longer act like functional adults. We act like children (or adolescents). We can’t think clearly and we find ourselves getting caught up in immature losing patterns and strategies. Retaliation, arguing about who’s “right,” control and manipulation, withdrawal and emotional dumping are all symptoms of unresolved family of origin issues.

The good news is there’s a solution – relational mindfulness. It’s the antidote to conflict and the path to healthier relationships. In this talk you’ll learn how to identify your family of origin issues and get practical mindfulness tools and strategies to heal them.

 


Sig Taylor is a well-known and highly respected Calgary Marriage and Family Therapist. This presentation represents the culmination of decades of experience and training in couple’s therapy.

He is a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and a Clinical Fellow of the Canadian Association for Marriage & Family Therapy. He also teaches couples therapy at the University of Calgary, Faculty of Social Work Professional Development Program.